From Pain to Love

How I overcame suffering by learning to love myself

Readers call this book their “bible”, underline and read several times; professionals – such as psychiatrists, psychotherapists and life coaches are willing to recommend it to their clients.

The Study on Love – “From Pain to Love – How I Overcome Suffering by Learning to Love Myself”, the bestselling book in popular psychology in Serbia, was awarded Hit Liber recognition in 2011.

„Starting from touching personal experiences, emotional downs and seemenigly hopeless situations, Ivana Kuzmanović, leads us through transformation processes in a warm and intimate manner, all the way to healing and achieving the ultimate well-being , i.e. the state of Love. ‘It is Love we strive for and know it must exist, though sometimes seems unreal and unattainable. It is Love that is the source of serenity, joy, happiness, harmony and creation. It is Love that gives purpose and lasts forever’.

The most important step on the Path of Love that will take us to complete love is to learn how to love ourselves. Though it might at first glance seem to us that there is nothing simpler than that, we need courage, knowledge and skills to achieve self-love.“
Bojana Glušac, a Paediatrician, Psychodrama therapist and trainer.

Extensive knowledge and experience shown through personal examples, excersices and theoretical explanations of psychological phenomena have made this book inspiring and healing. For some people it represents an initial spark for a change, and for the others strenghtening their faith and support, and for those who are already on the way – additional energy and the feeling of belonging.

The Study on Love „From Pain to Love – How I Overcome Suffering by Learning to Love Myself “ is divided into several thematic sections:

  • The Path of Love – describing the difference between love with the lower case „l“ and the capital „L“, i.e. the difference between conscious and unconscious love;
  • Misconceptions about love – what we all think that love is, and it actually isn’t; and exactly these beliefs force us to look for and see it where there is none – an obstacle on the Path of Love – describing various manifestations of fears and ways how to overcome them, which leads to increased self-awareness and the development of self-love.
  • Fear – Obstacle on the Path of Love. Fear exits in all of us and that is an natural phenomena – neither good nor bad in itself. But, from the way we deal with it depends the quality  of our life as well our relationships.
    Let us put some light in a darkness of our fear.
  • And finally, we meet  the Helpers on the Path of Love: faith, gratitude, discipline, presence, acceptance, forgiveness , etc.

The focus is at the point where roads take us to three directions: psychotherapy, spirituality and experience. This is also their crossing and connecting point to the whole which there is no fulfilled life without.  The Emotional Energetic Transformation Training is precisely created on this basis, it is a coaching technique combining pychotherapeutic knowledge, coaching skills and experience in working with energies.

The ease of writing and spontaneous humour make this, partly a romantic study on love, smooth, vital and available. This way not only do we get suggestions of possible solutions but also indirectly learn what the basis of a good relationship and every changeis!

Loving ourselves removes the barriers that separate us from Love.


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Book of Personal Changes

This is my new book which is some kind of continuation of the book “From Pain to Love”. Couching technique Emotional Energetic Transformation Training was presented in this book. Cards to work with the unconscious, multi-purpose of the book and its expertise daily inspire numerous readers to grow, develop potentials and send thankful letters as a feedback.

A change does not happen by reading — it happens by applying what is written. This is why this interactive Book of Personal Changes is special. Its mission is to support you in genuine acceptance and application of everything that can help you achieve a better life.

In this book not only will you find explanations of the most common problems and obstacles in life, but also advice how to overcome them; its effectiveness is confirmed in practice – both through personal experience of the author and the clients she works with as a Life Coach.

With 80 cards of personal changes, your subconscious mind takes you to new insights, findings that encourage essential changes, because obstacles are within us, the same place where solutions are.

The Book of Personal Changes is your guide and support at the same time.

In this book you will sometimes find rest, but sometimes you will find tasks which are the keys to your new success. Some of the insights and knowledge you will confirm, but some of the new ones you will discover. You will be getting to know yourself each day in a different way. Inside and outside. Your conscious mind will become more alert, and you will be surprised by infallibility of your subconscious mind to recognize exactly what you need that moment, as well as the skills to lead you and work in your favour.

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My Books

In addition to “From Pain to Love”, I have also written seven other books which were published in Serbian, and some of them will soon be published in English. They are all bestsellers, and more importantly they all made visible changes in the lives of a large number of readers.

“Lemur’s love” – Dramatic love story, suggestive and touchingly honest, this book is not only one of the many women’s confessions, but serious, spiritual, enlightened facing with challenges in love. Search for a higher meaning of love is reflected in each sentence of this emotional drama that readers easily identify with and therefore are open to healing their own emotional scars.

“Less than three” – “It is a gentle and real novel about love and a soul that is hurt, passionate, pure, curious and winning. Ivana reveals the secret of that victory. This way, books change the world” – Stil Magazine.
“This book is about the goodness. Though it is about a woman of the third millennium, this book is modern, as just as it is the search for love. In the Less than three novel there are a lot of things that are deeply personal but at the same time universal to all people: love, suffering, anxiety, longing, escape to and from ourselves, hope, desires and longing for a change, for new and unfamiliar, for the One who is the beginning and the end of life”- Prof. Dr. R. Bigović

“Amor porteño” – It is a novel about adultery – “Wisdom and knowledge are not privileges of the innocent and chaste. We grow only when we are able to be mature inside and out and our virtue is real only if we are not its slaves.“
Nadja is not only a character used for the author’s ideas to come to life; she is a reflection of life, testimonial about endless artistic inspiration, emotional labyrinths, efforts to hide dark side of personality, on one hand, and faith in life and the right to authentic expression of being, on the other.
In attempt to annul contradictions in ourselves, we annul the truth about ourselves. This painful knowledge, as everyday temptation, has each of the characters in this novel.

“In the name of love” – The characters of a new novel by Ivana Kuzmanović live around us and in us. Pain and emotional scars they inherited from their parents. They became victims or hangmen. Lack of love and misunderstanding pushed them to the edge of life, sickness, isolation, destruction and sadness. Nevertheless, they managed to reverse their fate…
This book is about awakening, maturing and self-cognition. From romantically shown experiences we find out how life flows change, consciousness matures and what obstacles comes across.

“Love without illusions” – Why to believe that exactly this book in myriad of apparently similar books offers seductively a door ajar to self-cognition and safe way to happiness and love?
Because this book is warm, personal, based on experiences, and it doesn’t offer cheap and shallow solutions, because it is brave, funny and live, and above all it won’t make you think that this journey is easy. But, also, it will arguably convince you that it is worth taking, without delays, as it is a reward for those brave who dare to find what we all strive for: tranquility, love and self-awareness.

“The Book about me” – is actually the only book about you. There are 365 questions you might have never been asked before. This book will remind you of moments that are probably forgotten. You will be responding to each question again and again for five years. Imagine what surprises, excitements and discoveries are waiting for you, as well as lots of laugh, pride and gratitude. You will get to know yourself better and getting to know ourselves is a precondition of all love, so this book is intended to help you in the development of self-love – the most important love of all.